Pronouns

In this episode Jessy and Rebekah review a menstrual cup that allows you to have sex with the partner of your choosing while you’re on your period without ruining anyone’s sheets! And then WTMV welcomes their first guest, Lucy Frank! Lucy is about to graduate from Duke School of Nursing and visited WTMV to talk about appropriate use of pronouns in a medical scenario and, really, in life. And then Jessy, Rebekah and Lucy played a celebrity themed drinking game with T-Rex arms? You’ll have to listen for details.

0:39: Jessy and Rebekah (but mostly Jessy) offer a completely unpaid review of SoftCup. It’s great. We (mostly) love SoftCup. But, Dear SoftCup, please sponsor our podcast. Okay thank you.

5:00: We spent quite a bit of time trying to figure out why the Diva Cup dries you out. The SoftCup box says that SoftCup is one of the only products that doesn’t dry you out but, despite the fact that Rebekah has experienced the drying-out effects of the diva cup, she cannot seem to find corroborating evidence. More research will be done and we will share our findings. But this is one area in which the Internet has failed us.

7:40: Rebekah’s sister Lucy comes to WTMV to talk about the appropriate use of pronouns in the world but, more specifically, in a medical context (FYI: she’s a nurse). Welcome to Welcome to My Vagina, Lucy!

15:30: Watch Jessy’s amazing video called “Intersex Basics.” It’s all about the fact that gender exists on a spectrum and how people oversimply everything to make it easier to fit those they interact with into neat little boxes. But we all know that life is never easily categorized. People are complicated and that is what makes us amazing. So watch her video.  Also, read Middlesex by Jeffrey Eugenides. Eugenides wrote this book because he was dissatisfied with the way literature and history dealt with intersex anatomy and emotions. Read it and then let’s talk about it.

17:00: Education is key! The more we talk about things, the more people learn and become more comfortable. So let’s keep talking. All the time. About everything. But let’s agree to not expect marginalized populations to do all the work. It’s up to all of us to research and make the effort. That includes nurses, podcasters, bartenders, bankers, politicians, teachers and everyone else.

17:30: Say it with us: being transgender is not a problem.

19:20: “Vanessa Goes to the Doctor.” This video is EVERYTHING.

23:30: Here is a link to Duson Spectrum, the Gay-Straight Alliance at Duke School of Nursing.

24:30: Here is a little information about “Let’s Talk About Sex!” It’s an interactive workshop for healthcare providers and students to get used to, you guessed it, talking about sex! All in an effort to make it more comfortable for the provider as well as the patient.

27:00: Ethan Cicero is awesome. He wrote an incredible, and deeply troubling, article about the barriers to care for transgender people that everyone should read. Seriously. Read it. His efforts have shed much needed light on this issue and are hopefully leading to higher educational standards across the medical community.

29:50: Lucy gives us some really wild statistic about victims of sex trafficking. It’s horrible. We all have to do better but health care providers are oftentimes the only people outside sex trafficking rings that come in contact with victims.

34:40: Hold on to your hats, folks, because Jessy, Rebekah and Lucy play a drinking game! And get drunk. And then go out after the podcast is over and continue having drinks. There was laughter, there were tears, Lucy ate scallop tacos. (This part of the day was thankfully not recorded.)

Swear count: Rebekah Esther “Swears like a Sailor” Frank swore 8 times. She was handily out-swore by Jessy “Potty Mouth” Caron who swore 9 whole times!

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